Named Person is Not Safe when it comes to LGBTQA (plus anyone else the acronym currently misses out)
The discussion over Named Person has not been a clean reasoned well thought out debate. I’m the first to suspect the SNP of having ulterior motives but a lot of people who are in support of Named Person do so for genuine and often deep seated reasons. It’s hard not to question how many of those in support actually watched the Supreme Court case. Here it is for anyone who didn’t. The Scottish Government struggled to defend this policy at all.
SUPREME COURT - NAMED PERSON
Because the Christian Institute was the group who put up the largest amount of money in the court case, that has been jumped on in some quarters to suggest that those of us against Named Person are homophobic and want to control our children. In my case I object because I don’t want anyone controlling my children. I’m also wondering who thinks Ruth Davidson is homophobic? Although I am straight (I hate the term ciswoman) I am in a relationship with a transwoman.
My daughter is a lesbian. The closest she had to coming out moments were at about six commenting on my cousin’s wedding pictures that it was great two girls could do that because there were two pretty dresses and no yucky boys to kiss; at eight or nine she told me she thought she liked girls as well as boys and over the last four or five years she’s started talking about girls and boys are a thing of the past.
I absolutely agree that a child who is LGBTQA and is growing up in a hostile household needs an independent adult to talk to. There are Christian families that are not a hostile place for an LGBTQA child and there are irreligious SNP supporting families that are.
Closets are dark and they are suffocating. The LGBTQA rates of suicide are disgusting. This needs to change. I am absolutely for any method that helps.
But… I don’t think changing the role of a guidance teacher at school helps, and nor does naming some stranger at the council for home educated children. If the LGBTQA kids are not trusting their guidance teacher now then they won’t if that guidance teacher becomes a named person. There is also absolutely no guarantee that a named person is a safe person for LGBTQA children or that they are equipped to help a child in that position. And if the out pouring of hatred aimed at the Christian Institute by the people in authority and responsible for named person is anything to go by there is no guarantee that a Christian child would be safe with their new Named Person.
Surely some of that £60 million plus that Named Person has cost could have actually gone towards measures that really help LGBTQA children and people.
Encouraging LGBTQA staff members to come out fully in high schools and assuring them of a climate without fear would be a good place to start. Would they not be a good independent adult for a child to go to?
And maybe LGBTQA counsellors in every school and/or youth cafe would be a good idea. How many of them could £60 million have employed?
In terms of trans kids making grants available for the hormones and the other bits and bobs that made puberty less traumatic would go a long way to helping them.
LGBTQA are often badly bullied. Active anti-bullying policies in schools that are really enforced are also required across Scotland. As a home educator I am made aware on a daily basis just how many children in Scotland go to school in fear and are being failed by the person about to be made their named person.
I hope that the SNP consider what they are doing and if they really want to help LGBTQA children then they need to stop wasting money on a scheme that will do very little to help.
The Kimlin Family